An Open Letter to Fathers

Hey Dad(s),

I think, in a lot of ways, you don’t get enough credit. Mother’s Day is always a big production with breakfast in bed, spa treatments, lots of gifts and heartfelt notes. Sure, Father’s Day gets some attention, but it’s mostly seen as a day to get you some new grilling tools.

Don’t get me wrong, mom’s deserve a big celebration. They birthed us for crying out loud. But I want to take this time to commend the men who have been there for us. What’s beautiful is that a father is not just the man who shares a part of our DNA; for some, our biological fathers are the ones who we call dad, but for others, adopted fathers, mentors, or uncles become the men we turn to as our fathers. Thank you to all the men who fill the role of “daddy.”

Thank you for providing for us. Thanks for working long hours so we could go to college or on vacation. We know you’ve made a lot of sacrifices for us and put our needs above your own on countless occasions. We want you to know that we don’t take this for granted. We’re so thankful we have someone to call when we can’t make next months rent.

Thanks for teaching us. Thanks for forcing us to get a job and teaching us the meaning of accomplishing something for ourselves. Thanks for making us do chores and teaching us the value of a strong work ethic. Thanks for teaching us how to use power tools oand change the tire on our car. You taught us the skills that we’ll later take for granted, so we’re taking the time to share our appreciation now.

Thank you for protecting us. Thank you for threatening our boyfriends if they didn’t have us home at a certain hour and for yelling at us when we didn’t keep our car in a safe driving condition. We probably weren’t grateful at the time, but we knew that you would always be there to protect us.

Thank you for being there. Thank you for simply spending time with us and for getting upset when we didn’t make time for you. It made us realize that you cared, and whether we said it or not, that was so important to us.

Thank you for loving us: especially on the occasions when you had every reason not to. Thank you for never giving up on us, always believing in us, and always making us laugh. Rest assured that our groans in response to your cheesy dad jokes were actually signs of our love for you.

Thank you father, for being my dad.

Iris Proctor
Iris is the director of ArborWoman.