Choice is possibility made real.

change is possibility made real girl looking into woods and path through trees

Think about the difference between these statements:

“I just can’t choose.” Life’s full of good things. How can I pick one over the other?

Now consider this:

“I have no choice.” My back is up against the wall. I can only see one possibility, and I don’t like it.

Do you ever hear yourself saying that?

Do you ever think that?

Or do you ignore yourself when you say it, as though somehow this is your lot in life?

When things are going well and our lives are full of possibility, we don’t think so much about our choices. We take them for granted, put them off, make light of them. Then, suddenly, our situation changes, and the choices which once were all around us seem to have disappeared.

It’s at times like these, when we feel most desperate, that we need to slow down and listen to the still, small voice inside. You know, the voice that wants something more meaningful, dreams of something deeper, and feels more passionately about the moment than others appear to.

These are the big decisions, the ones that cause us the most anxiety, because they have the greatest consequences. And when we’re making big decisions, we should never feel trapped. Feeling trapped into a decision, means you didn’t actually make a DECISION.

There’s a temptation to view “Life” as a force that makes you do things, when really it’s only situations—filled with messages (present and past)—that cause us to feel trapped. Before you make a coerced decision, try to determine who or what you’re allowing to control your choices. Is it really what you want? Because if it’s not, choose something else, and reclaim control of your life.

Because here’s the thing about choices: we are never without them.

There are good choices, bad choices, and difficult choices. But whenever we say there is no choice, then we are saying there is no hope, no possibility, and our desires are irrelevant.

Like it or not, our choices are inescapable. But that doesn’t mean we need to fear them. Educate yourself. Never accept that you are without options. Consider your heart and your future—you just might discover something new.

Are there any perceived dead ends or long dark roads that YOU could change with a choice?

Iris Proctor
Iris is the director of ArborWoman.