Your choice. Your decision. Own it.

It’s easy to own our successes. When we’re proud of something we’ve done, we want to share it. Talk about it. Spread the word.

But sometimes we choose the wrong thing.

We make bad decisions.

And then we look at ourselves and we think: now what?

The temptation is to avoid acknowledging our mistakes, to lay the blame at someone else’s feet. We don’t want to talk about it, think about it, hear about it. It’s not our problem. It’s not our fault.

But when we do this, we lose the power to take charge of the situation or to make amends for what’s happened. We abandon our agency and fall back into a rhythm of helplessness, where our lives are just things happening to us, out of our control.

What if, instead of denying our choices, we owned them?

When we open ourselves up to talking about our lives and the decisions that have brought us to where we are now, we allow ourselves a chance to heal. We don’t have to be proud of our choices, but we can acknowledge them.

By owning all of our decisions, we take on a lot of responsibility, but we also take back a lot of power. We take credit for our successes while holding ourselves accountable for our mistakes. We accept that if we walk into something, we can also walk out. Even if walking out takes time, energy, and resources we didn’t initially anticipate.

Ownership is when we look at our life and we say “for better or for worse, this is mine.”

Are there decisions in your life you’re proud to own? What about ones you’d rather deny? Do you think that accepting them would make you a bolder woman?

#A2Woman #GoBoldly

Iris Proctor
Iris is the director of ArborWoman.